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Change Your Life: 5 Steps to Creating Positive Habits

May 21, 2012 in Business, Leadership, Motivation, Personal Growth, Successful Living

As mentioned in the last blog post two weeks ago, if you are seeking to lead a positive and successful life - whatever that may mean for you, you have to make it a mission to understand how your habits are either helping or sabotaging  you. Once you have gained that level of awareness, it's time to set your intention to start developing new habits that will help you achieve your life's goals or change your life completely. In this post, I'm going to break down the process of habit formation to help you understand how you can create positive habits.

We all go through this process of creating new habits at an early age for many of the tasks we perform on a daily basis. Some of those tasks include: standing up, walking, talking, etc... We have committed the mechanical know-hows to our subconscious mind and over time have developed the belief system we need to be able to perform those tasks and many other ones mindlessly.

A perfect example of this is learning to open a door.  You no longer have to think about nor struggle with opening a door. You also don't have to wonder what you need to do first or whether the door will open at all. You know it will open.  You learned and struggled with this once as a child growing up and have done it so many times after that it's become a habit.  All you have to do now is give physical self the order to open the door and you unconsciously (mindlessly) take all the steps necessary to open the door.

To succeed in any other endeavor, you need to apply this same process and effort to create positive habits.  Below are 5 steps that will help you with the creation of any habit.

1. Awareness

Change starts with awareness. And if you're ever going to succeed at making changes in your life, you have to know that YOU need to make a change. You have to know what to want for you to desire it.

2. Desire

Desire will drive you to see the change through. The desire you have to be a better version of yourself or to see the positive outcome that the new habit will yield is what's going to keep pushing you onward when things seems to get tough. This is certainly true when the results you seek doesn't come right away. This is a failure point for most people. Usually, the desire is not strong enough and so they give up half-way or just before they've committed this new task to their subconscious to allow it to work to their advantage.

Get emotional about the results. Paint a picture of your future as a result of the things this new habit can help you to achieve. If you're not willing to get emotional about it, you can stop reading now because all you have is a wish and the remaining steps will not help you.

3. Learning

I was tempted to leave this step out but it is necessary to the process. My temptation was purely out of concerns that you may get stuck in this phase that you never take action.  I don't believe your getting stuck is because you want to, but that society has taught us that taking action without knowing, in advance, every sequential detailed step is a risk. I say, once you've learned what the first step is, take action.  And in doing so, you will have a clearer picture of what the next step should be. The first step will expand your horizon and encourages you to take the next.

Suspend the requirement of knowing how and dive in. The only way you learn to swim is by getting in the water.

The utility of knowledge rests only in its application.

4. Action

You have to take action. You don't create a habit by meditating and contemplating the habit. You have to do something. It's the only way.

5. Repetition

The final and key ingredient to habit formation is repetition. If you're learning how to do something and you find it hard, keep on doing it. In the words of Thomas Fuller, “All things are difficult before they are easy”. When it's become easy, it's becomes a habit. You performed the task so many times until it becomes second nature to you. Your subconscious mind will have taken control of the mechanical know-hows and all you have to do in the future is give yourself the command to execute.

You can draw upon this process to create and develop new habits and beliefs system around the things you want to achieve in life.  To commit any task to your subconscious and create positive habits, keep repeating the action over and over.  Your physical being will submit to the authority of your subconscious mind and this will help you create the life you've dreamed of through your habits. The key point not to miss here is that you have to be intentional in creating habits that will serve you.

Your Habits: The Secret to Your Success or Your Failure!

May 3, 2012 in Business, Leadership, Motivation, Personal Growth, Successful Living

Many years ago, I heard one of my favorite Speakers/Authors share something that have had a tremendous impact on my life and I believe it will also impact yours if you take it seriously - because it is the determinant of success and failure in your life.  This is one aspect of Leading With Intent that I would like to share with you. Your life, my life and everyone else' in this world is run by habits: good or bad.

Some people are addicted to drugs - a negative habit, while others are addicted to taking time to read and reflect - a positive habit.

Most of the things you do, you do on autopilot. Now this Read the rest of this entry →

Mastering the Art of Living – March 29th Virtual Seminar Call

March 14, 2012 in Business, Leadership, Motivation, Personal Growth, Successful Living

It is with much pleasure and excitement that I announce our guest for this month's virtual seminar call, Vickie Roundtree - a fellow John Maxwell Certified Coach, Teacher and Speaker and friend. Our topic of discussion for this month is "Mastering the Art of Living".  Vickie is also a #1 Best Selling Author and has co-authored Fight For Your Dreams with Les Brown.

Listen in and participate in the conversation on Thursday, March 29th at 9:00 PM EST by calling (712) 432-0900 and entering 252039 # as the access code. 

Vickie will also take questions.  Come ready with questions of your own and let's make this call an interactive one.

Mastering the Art of Living

Leading yourself and others with intent require efforts in several specific areas.  Before you can lead others, you have to start with yourself first. On this call with Vickie, we will discuss the importance of living on purpose, share tips on how you can lead yourself ans start living on purpose.

Living is definitely and art and we each have to shape our lives and follow a path that's unique.  Come join us and learn how to design your own unique path by learning how to:

  • Rise above fear and adversity
  • Develop an unwavering belief in you
  • Put excuses & complaints on hiatus
  • Be grateful and enjoy life while doing it
  • Embrace change and maximize opportunities for success

About Vickie Roundtree

Vickie Roundtree graduated from Lewis University in Romeoville, IL with a Bachelor's Degree in Business Administration. She has worked in Corporate America for 26 years holding positions in the areas of sales, marketing, IT, and supply chain management.  Vickie also has a number of certifications in information technology (IT) and spent the last 9 years of her corporate career working in IT and Supply Chain Management.  During Vickie's years in Corporate America, she has led  teams of people to achieve great results as while inspiring and motivating them to  achieve their own personal goals.

Vickie made a career change in 2009 and launched her business as a public speaker, trainer & coach. She is a Les Brown platinum speaker in addition to being a Certified John Maxwell Coach and Trainer. Vickie has a heart filled with compassion and a passion to serve and to make a profound impact on the lives that she touches.  She is on a mission to educate women around the world with basic life skills. Life skills that allow those women to embrace their power and in turn create and spread greatness through the lives they touch.

A mother to three children, Vickie is an avid supporter of Operation Smile helping them to perform necessary surgeries for children around the world that have been challenged with a cleft lip or cleft palate.

You can learn more about Vickie and the services she offers by visiting her John Maxwell Team Website.

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  2. 30 days to live – Taking actions on things that matter, Part 2
  3. 30 days to live – Taking actions on things that matter, Part 3
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  5. Choices in Life… Could you live the life you want?

Do you have a plan for growth?

September 28, 2011 in Business, Communication, Leadership, Motivation, Personal Growth, Successful Living

Are you looking to grow?  Are you looking to be, do and have more in your life?  If so, below is a sample growth plan that my mentor and friend John Maxwell shared on his blog a couple years ago that I think you'll find valuable - especially for those of you who participate in my Mastermind Groups.


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On Twitter and Facebook on Sunday, I quoted my friend Paul Meyer, mentioning that he was the person who helped me create my first personal growth plan. In the hours afterward, I received dozens of requests, all asking the same thing: “How do you create a personal growth plan?”

The answer to that takes more than 140 characters, so I thought I’d post it here:

The key to a life of continual learning and improvement lies in developing a plan for growth and following through with it. Paul Meyer knew this. In fact, when I first met him and we had lunch, he asked me a question that changed my life: “Do you have a personal plan for growth?” Read the rest of this entry →

30 days to live – Taking actions on things that matter, Part 3

June 10, 2011 in Business, Motivation, Personal Growth, Successful Living


What will you be remembered for?

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Leave a legacy!

This is the last article in the series “30 days to live”. Over the past two weeks we’ve explored the different areas of your life that you might want to focus on if you only had 30 days to live. In Part 1 and Part 2, I asked that you take a look at your life and see what you would change if you only had known your “death date”. Looking at life from this perspective, we emphasized on the urgency of taking actions now as opposed to later.

As we conclude the series and knowing how limited our life on earth really is, my last questions to you:

What would you want people to say about you at your funeral?

You may find it a strange question. But imagine that you are standing in the back of the room at your funeral listening everyone coming on stage to say a few words about you. What would
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30 days to live – Taking actions on things that matter, Part 2

June 4, 2011 in Business, Communication, Motivation, Personal Growth, Successful Living

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Focus on Relationship: Making things right

In part one of the series we explored some of the things that one might consider and action steps to take given only 30 days to live. We posed the question: How would your life be different had you only 30 days to live? We covered how we usually talk about the past and the future while forgetting to live today the best we can. The tendency that we have of exaggerating yesterday, overestimating tomorrow and underestimating today gives us a false perspective on how to best live life. What I urged is that you should start now, turn your intentions into actions and make today tomorrow’s ‘good old days’.

In part 2 of the series, we focus more on Read the rest of this entry →

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